Having to work with toxic people or people pleasers can be draining on the long run. This is because they tend to he fake, rarely accept they are in the wrong, blame others for their own mistakes and do not mind succeeding at the expense of another.
Overtime, people like this become quite good at masking who and what they truly are. However, everyone slips and herein are discussed 5 telltale characteristics of inauthentic people as shared by Deep Patel, the author of “A Paperboy’s Fable: The 11 Principles of Success”.
1. They are generally full of themselves.
Inauthentic people like to show off. They have high opinions of themselves and they want to make sure everyone around them sees how great they are. They view others as being beneath them. They are often the peacock of their group, the one who is strutting and bragging, and who can’t stand it when others show them up. They have wrapped themselves in a bogus façade and they even start to believe their own lies.
2. They are manipulative and judgmental.
Inauthentic people can be highly judgmental of others, often as a way of gaining control. An inauthentic person will constantly be trying to gain the upper hand or win the validation of others by manipulating those around them. But at the same time, they are unlikely to address any problems head on. Instead, they are looking for ways to make themselves appear more important.
Their energy is focused on building themselves up and tearing others down. This is why they are adept at being passive aggressive and giving backhanded compliments. If they feel threatened or ignored, they will do whatever it takes to move the spotlight back on themselves or deflect any negative outcomes they might encounter.
3. Don’t express their emotions freely and clearly.
Inauthentic people don’t know how to cope with their emotions, so they are often aggressive with others as a way to cover up their own feelings.
Perhaps they believe that in order to get the things they want, they have to be willing to lie, cheat and bend the rules. This also explains why fake people are often two-faced, showing friends one side of themselves and then talking about them behind their backs. But seldom would they say those truths to a friend’s face, preferring instead to maintain the appearance of being nice to everyone.
4. They aren’t interested in learning from their mistakes.
Inauthentic people are focused on making themselves look good. They aren’t too worried about the actual quality of their character or trying to better themselves or become more trustworthy.
They’re also liable to hold grudges against others, as forgiveness would mean having the humility to see that no one is perfect. In their mind, they are perfect, and everyone else falls short.
This is why inauthentic people aren’t able to learn from their own mistakes. It would always be someone else’s fault.
5. They have unrealistic perceptions
This is one of the biggest reasons why fake people are so toxic: they are often wrapped up in materialism because, in their world, the “stuff” that fills their life is the true reflection of how successful they are.
They are usually more interested in collecting “things” they can brag about than working to develop lasting and meaningful relationships. Having a deep connection or friendship with others would require that they are also in touch with their thoughts and feelings.
As an entrepreneur or employee, be on the lookout for people who exhibit most of these traits. This is so you can stay away from them. They most often than not destroy whatever good dynamics that exists in a team or group.